You are either interested, curious or worried about emotional eating. Whichever it is – I welcome you to this space with all my heart ♥
Below is a short introduction to emotional eating. For in depth understanding, recognition and knowledge I highly recommend that you download my eGuide. It is available to you HERE for free, or you can buy it on AMAZON if you prefer.
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My name is Helene Philipsen and I am a former emotional eater and codependent. You can read my story of sensational transformation by clicking my name. It ain’t boring, I can tell you that much…
Today I live a wonderful, balanced life and have escaped the food prison I was trapped in for many, many years.
It is my greatest hope that you, who may still be struggling with food and compulsive eating, will choose your freedom too. Know that you are not alone and that a new life is entirely possible if you are willing.
My life has never been as good as it is now. I am living with love and respect. Within myself, in my relations and in my mind. I have fought and succeeded in building a new future for my children, for health by losing 130 lbs, and I can look myself in the eyes without shame for the first time in…well… forever. I choose this life for myself and I walk that talk EVERY DAY ♥
As emotional eaters we live in an either/or world. Everything is either black or white.
We’ve either done well, or we’ve done badly. Something is either allowed or forbidden. We must either be rewarded… or we must punish ourselves. Both superiority and an inferiority complex co-exist in a wonderful mix.
Food is our best friend and our worst enemy. I can’t repeat this often enough: Emotional Eating is the malnutrition of emotional needs.
Does that sound strange? Maybe, maybe not.
When you begin to read about emotional eating you will discover that you become increasingly conscious about exactly what happens with you in relation to eating and food.
Those of us who suffer from emotional eating, experience eating food as a way to suppress and soothe difficult emotions such as anger, sadness, longing for love and intimacy, grief and frustration.
That’s why emotional eating is closely connected with our emotional life, and can easily be triggered by a bad day at work, or something that we perceive as criticism or rejection. The same applies for great feelings of joy, an experience or event that we want to celebrate or a feeling of happiness.
In other words, food is used to switch off thoughts and to relieve experiences of physical pain and chaotic feelings.
Eating becomes a way to resolve problems – a kind of survival strategy, but because of the shame over losing control, and the subsequent weight gains, this solution ends up becoming our actual problem.
The emotional eaters’ great paradox is that although we eat to suppress difficult feelings, we become overwhelmed by an enormous sense of shame and guilt about overeating as soon as we’ve done it. With time, this sensation will start to set in before we’ve even stopped eating. It is a progressive condition.
Whilst we’re emotionally eating we often experience a sense of calm and an absence of emotions, but afterwards the feeling of shame and guilt about the loss of control adds to the original difficult emotions we were experiencing. The shame and guilt is often followed by feelings of self-hatred and self-contempt, which further reduces our low self-esteem.
And then we go back to eating…
Many emotional eaters describe the sensation of their condition escalating until they feel shame as soon as they take their first bite. The joy and calmness that they originally experienced has disappeared.
Emotional eaters, compulsive binge eaters and food addicts rarely seek help. UNFORTUNATELY.
And those of us that do seek help have often suffered for many years and primarily seek professional help to deal with obesity or mental health issues like anxiety or depression.
It’s my belief that the biggest reason for this is the shame connected with emotional eating and the common mistake (and socially reinforced idea) that you should just “get a grip” and “pull yourself together and stop eating!”. Which has NOTHING to do with it.
In addition, emotional eating is still an overlooked and unknown disorder, compared to anorexia and bulimia, which is why many people simply don’t realize that they are suffering from something that can be treated. Help is here.
This is unfortunately also often reflected in the treatment our doctors recommend, which usually only focuses on being overweight.
Does that sound familiar?
It can be very useful to know what the signs of emotional eating are. Both for yourself and for your loves ones.
Did you recognize something in the above text?
We cannot change what we cannot see. This is your opportunity to take a closer look at what role food plays in your life. I’ve developed a scientifically tested quiz for this purpose – it’s the most thorough one on the subject.
Eating Disorders describe illnesses that are characterized by irregular eating habits and severe distress or concern about body weight or shape.
Eating disturbances may include inadequate or excessive food intake which can ultimately damage an individual’s well-being.
The most common forms are mentioned below – and affect both men and women.
For the better part of 3 decades, the eating disorder community as a whole has been on a quest to understand the mechanics and underlying root causes of dysfunctional eating patterns.
For those who are struggling with eating challenges and for those who treat them, being able to fully understand the progression of an eating disorder or addiction can truly open the door to the solutions that can help break the cycle. Arguably one of the best known theories that has been offered to detail the process and progression of an eating disorder and/or addiction is the Jellinek Curve.
This curve has become a seminal fixture in the disorder science, and despite scrutiny and some level of controversy it has proved an essential tool in the recovery process.
Codependency is by many considered the mother load when it comes to addictive nature. Whether it be self-harm, eating disorders, anxiety or traditional addictions like alcoholism or drug addiction.
Codependency is a behavirioul pattern that can occur even if you have no addicts in your life and it is definitely worth taking a look at.
Have you noticed certains terms and words that stand out? Not to worry ♥ sometimes we use clinical terms or expressions specific to eating challenges – the most commons ones are listed here for your viewing pleasure…